Love Your Brain – Part 5: Own Your Life
In this post, we will take a look at how you can thrive in your daily life and in your business thanks to a healthy and vibrant brain (and body) despite modern society’s “offenders”.
Once we take care of our brain thanks to proper nutrition, sleep, exercise, and self-care, we can take advantage of our energy, focus, clarity, and strengths to improve our productivity, goal-setting, and be in control of our life personally and professionally. We can then live a better, happier, and more fulfilled life.
This, unfortunately, only happens in an ideal world. When it comes to dealing with everyday life, it’s not always easy to be in control of every situation. Frustration, distractions, stress, fears, and worries often mine our busy day and they interfere with our plans.
How can we keep our sanity? Let’s see how some modern society’s “offenders” affect our brain, and I’ll share some tips to get back in control.When it comes to dealing with everyday life, it's not easy to control frustration, distractions, stress, fears, and worries. How can you keep your sanity? #LifeWorkBalance #livebetter #stress Click To Tweet
Stress and anxiety
I’m sure many of you experience or experienced stress, maybe often, maybe sometimes. It’s something that we as human beings are familiar with, especially in today’s hectic world, from difficult family issues to a challenging workplace, to financial problems. If you own your business, stress is inevitable and it can prevent you from working efficiently, even if you love what you do.
I’ve been there and I struggled with it a lot in the past. But what I have learned is: Know how stress works, identify those triggers / clues, and analyze your emotions and your body sensations. The more you know about yourself, the better you will deal with those situations.
Stress is our body’s natural and necessary physical reaction to changes in the environment or depending on particular circumstances. Basically, our brain decides that a response to a certain threat or danger is required for our protection, and this can be a good thing if it happens once in a while.
When you experience a “fight or flight” response, the hypothalamus, which controls many processes in the brain, activates the pituitary gland, and this tells our adrenal glands to release adrenaline and cortisol, our stress hormones. After about 60 minutes, the levels of your stress hormones are supposed to go back to normal, assuming that the threat is over.
However, when we experience stress for long periods of time and this reaction becomes chronic (which is very common nowadays), the constant release of cortisol can lead to negative effects on our health. We end up weakening our immune system, impacting our digestive and cardiovascular systems, and promoting or worsening mood disorders.
Not only that, but elevated cortisol levels in our brain can eventually impair and promote degeneration of our brain cells, shrinkage of the brain, and ultimately cause dementia. This sounds very scary to me!
One way to conquer stress is by addressing what’s causing it. Most of the times, stress is caused by thoughts: fear of not being able to do something or being worth it or not being good enough, worrying about the future, being frustrated for losing clients, being unhappy about a relationship.
There’s a beautiful quote by Eckhart Tolle that says, “Worry means the mind is controlling you. Worry is always pointless. A solution never comes out of worry.”
You have to stop those harmful beliefs and negative self-talk, and start focusing on positivity instead. What if you could tap into your amazing talent, skills, and creativity to attract success, money, more happiness? What if you could remove unneeded things in your life and get more downtime to rest and reset? (Hint: say “no” more often)
Shifting from negative to positive is very helpful to accept your current state, retrain your mind, create new pathways, and lower your stress levels. Empower yourself by identifying the skills, knowledge, and strategies you need, and use your strengths and self-awareness to boost confidence and to handle your big challenges. Think about your positive resources, tap into your community (family, friends, colleagues) to get the support you need and find relief. Practice meditation and mindfulness to achieve more control of your thoughts. You will see the benefits almost immediately: stress will become more manageable.
Can you free yourself from stress forever? Probably not, but you can certainly increase awareness, know how to react in a more mindful way, and be more in control.
If you feel you need help controlling your stress and anxiety in your busy life, you can check out my Beat The Stress program and No More Stress guide: these two powerful tools will help you overcome difficult situations and get control of your life again.
Digital distractions (and multitasking)
Being able to control the distractions during our day is almost impossible nowadays. We have become victims of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) between social media notifications, emails, and information overload. We get caught in the endless (and mindless) routine that feeds our instant gratification but leaves no space to our creativity. We think we’re more connected than ever thanks to technology, however research studies have confirmed that we feel more lonely than ever.
Not only that, but we’re more stressed and depressed than ever. Also, that same technology provides amazing tools to improve our productivity, but it seems that we’re not achieving better results. We are distracted and we don’t focus on what’s important. We multitask and we produce mediocre results because our brain can’t simply concentrate on multiple projects at the same time.
We can blame part of this on dopamine that controls the pleasure system of our brain. Every time we “surf” the internet or engage on social media, dopamine gets activated and “rewards” us for the activity of seeking and discovering, making us curious, that encourages us to keep doing it.
The solution? You have to take control and set limits. You have to stop the mindless activity and instead focus on your precious time. Use your talents and skills, use technology to your advantage – don’t let it run you!
This is where time blocking can be highly effective. When you write down EVERYTHING (yes, this includes your morning routine, your time with family, and your workout) on your calendar and you stick to it, you can be more in control of your life. That doesn’t mean you have to live in your bubble and reject the outside world. Of course, you can still engage on social media and be connected, but there’s a time for everything. Have you ever found yourself trying to work on different projects at the same time at the end of the day because you wasted hours checking social media feeds? Multitasking at its worst! I shared my thoughts about multitasking in this article.
When you can create a balance between using your awesomeness to create and following / admiring the awesomeness of others, that’s when the magic happens!
Being more present, aware, and mindful about everything you do helps you bring better results in your life and in your business. This means being present in what you do, how you think, when you eat, when you spend time with friends, and you utilize your unique talents to shine. I get it, it’s not easy to change, but you can do it – one step at a time. It’s all about replacing old habits with one positive habit at a time, and you will see great results.
One book that I’d like to recommend is Lifescale by digital analyst, anthropologist, and futurist, Brian Solis. The book is divided into different chapters that take you by the hand through a journey of self-discovery and growth. No more distractions, no more procrastination, no more digital addiction. Instead, you will thrive by focusing on you, on your gifts, on your skills, finding your meaning and purpose in life (and in business). I will dedicate an entire post about this fantastic book very soon 🙂
Need help with your daily life? Have a hard time to change your habits? Maybe you need to be more in control of your life! Schedule your FREE Clarity Call with me HERE to see if I’m a good fit for your bright future!
Holistic Life Coach, Brain Fitness Coach, and Life-Work Balance Strategist for busy professionals. I blend well-being principles with neuroscience, biohacking, positive psychology, stress management, and mindfulness techniques to implement effective behavior changes.